There isn’t a parent out there who hasn’t experienced the horrors of a child’s tantrum. It’s hard to keep your cool while your child is completely losing theirs. However tantrums, as unpleasant as they are, are a part of childhood. Small children, namely those between 1 and 4, haven’t developed good coping skills yet. They have wants and needs that they are not able to voice appropriately which usually results in a total meltdown. So here are a few simple advices on what to do when your child decides to completely lose it.
During a tantrum your child is literally out of his mind. At this stage no sort of reasoning is going to make it better. You can actually only make it worse. So, just ignore the bad behavior and let your child cool down. Once she is calm, try talking with her.
Give your child some space
Sometimes kids just need to let their emotions out, so let them. This way they're able to get their feelings out, pull themselves together, and regain self-control. This trick can work on its own or in tandem with the whole ignoring bit.
Children have really short attention spans. So, one of the easiest things to do is to distract them before the major meltdown occurs.
Find out what is really frustrating your child
This goes for kids under 2. At this age they lack the vocabulary to voice their wants and needs. So, teaching your child simple signs for a few keywords can work wonders on preventing meltdowns.
Offer food and rest
Being tired and hungry are the 2 biggest tantrum triggers. Think how cranky you get when you miss out on sleep or your blood sugar hits rock bottom. With young kids, who have greater sleep and food needs, the effect is magnified tenfold.
Experts insist you must keep your cool during your child’s tantrum. Easier said than done, but if you are tense your child will pick up on that and lose it. Speaking in a calm voice helps not only your child calm down, but it keeps you calm as well.
Get out of there
If your child starts melting down over a toy or candy bar she wants, pick her up and take her either to a different area of the store or outside until she calms down. Changing the venue really can change the behavior.